Contemplating.

Contemplating.
Wayzata, Minnesota

Wednesday, August 28, 2019

Unexpectedly





My dear friend, Debbie doing what she does best!
Here helping Cierra with the final touches.

I really miss those days in Cierra's kitchen altogether.



A baby shower at Brit's Downtown Minneapolis.
My daughter in law Cassandra (expecting) 
on the left, my daughter, Cierra
 and Debbie!

Honestly I consider my long time friend Debbie as my bestie.


Best friends are the people you do
 anything and nothing with 
and still enjoy your time.

They're our unbiological sister/brother.

Debbie and I were both in our twenties when we met. She trained me a job as a savings consultant/personal banker at Midwest Federal Savings and Loan.  I was a divorced mother of a four year old boy (she thought was the most adorable) and she was single and dating the love of her life.  

Our friendship evolved over the years. Even when we didn't work together any longer we still remained good friends and she quickly became very close to my family. She was my partner in adventures (I loved to drive, she didn't) and I always brought up to new experiences and discoveries that she was eager to join too.  All I had to do is ask, do you want to join me? Oh heck yeah, she'd always reply. We've traveled to California, Vegas, Illinois, San Francisco, abroad, day trips to little towns near here.  Even to England where my daughter was interning in London.  Off to England we flew. Just last year we spent a few days seeing the sights of beautiful Duluth and Lake Superior. She loved the fact that she was a native of Minnesota and yet I being a Michigander originally always knew more things and places from here then most Minnesotans. We tried to fill up our book of adventures. Always. 
Of course she was my bridesmaid in my second marriage, and aided and guided me through every baby/marriage showers, baptisms, graduation parties, dance recitals, funerals, many holidays, and far too many family birthdays or gatherings to mention. We told and shared everything between ourselves. When her mother died my father died five months later and every May since 2000 we'd visit both her parents and my father's graves at Fort Snelling.  I'll continue that tradition, only without her now.

So very sadly I will forever miss my dear friend, Debbie. 
 In reality she was an extension of me. 

Last Saturday evening we suddenly lost her during her rehabilitation period.  The unfortunate reason her life went from perfectly normal began with an infection in her foot over a month ago. In the hospital things spiraled downward and sepsis entered. Apparently it never left her and other ills arrived.

Here are just a few moments through the years.
Often Debbie wasn't one for having her photo taken.



Celebrating a happy birthday for my son-in-law
who Debbie thought the world of. She was planning on joining
 me on trip to visit them all this year.

Debbie came for an entire week to a place 59 miles
 from the Canadian border just to be my bridesmaid.






My mother truly liked Debbie too. 





Cierra and Debbie, Deb always teased me that she was Cierra's second mother a title she shared with Aunt Linda!




Debbie was always welcomed at our family gatherings and she made many.

We shared a girl's weekend out! 



Galena, Illinois. Debbie, myself and 
another Debbie also a dear friend from our Midwest Federal Days.


Chatting with a tour guide during our Galena trip.


Dinner in England!




Catching some street entertainment in London.





My daughter captured this photo of us
 running across the street in Folkestone, England.
I have a lifetime of memories from that wonderful England trip!





Here we are at one of our
 Midwest Federal Savings and Loan reunions. 



A gathering at Gary's house.


Debbie was the special kind of person that you felt comfortable with and happy to share time together. A dear and special lady, always filling the room with cheer and my family will miss her just as much as I will.


There are so many ways we miss someone. You'll miss things they did, places and experiences you shared and yet, never forget the one most important thing we share with people we know. We'll miss who we were with them. How much your knowing each other mattered. 

It's not the things in life that are most important, it's the matter within everything. From art on the wall to tears during a movie. Feelings. Appreciating. Lifting spirits. Laughing. Crying. If there's one thing I know that hits right to the center of everything, it's feeling appreciated,
 and letting others know how much you appreciate them.


10 comments:

Sandi said...

I am so sorry for your loss, Karen. My condolences.

PerthDailyPhoto said...

Oh Karen I'm so sorry to hear this, you must all be so devastated. I can see Debbie was such a big part of your family and will be sorely missed. You had so much fun together, these are the things to hold onto and treasure. At times like this it does make you realise we have to make the most of every moment and let the people we love know how much they mean to us. Big hugs from Perth xox

Elephant's Child said...

I am so very sorry. You must feel as if you have lost a part of yourself (as indeed you have).
Oceans of caring are flowing your way.

eileeninmd said...

Karen, I am so sorry for your loss. I am sure you and your family will miss her, I am glad you have so many happy memories. A lovely tribute to your friend. Sending prayers and hugs!

Author R. Mac Wheeler said...

Hugs, prayers

Jeff (Sage) said...

My condolences. It is hard to lose a good friend. Prayers!

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RedPat said...

Karen, I feel so bad for you. I am teary after reading this post. You have many good memories but it will be hard at times to not feel the loss. Hugs to you.

humbird said...

I feel your pain, dear Karen. Sorry for your loss... Please, stay strong and know that your friend is always with you, just ...from another side now. Much Love.

Alexia said...

I'm so sorry to hear that you lost a dear friend, Karen. You will have so many memories to cherish.

Cloudia said...

You express this so beautifully that I miss her too, and most immediately send this to my dear friend. I love you Karen. Deepest condolences